Louise & Edward

Please enjoy this little guest post from Louise Cazley, author of Undies In A Bunch.

Edward and I met at a time in my life when I had decided to take a hiatus from men. My previous relationship had recently ended and the smart thing to do would have been to take a break from the opposite sex. My break from men lasted for about a month until this kind gentleman was brought into my life.

We Were Meant to MeetEdward's best friend, Randy and my best friend, Giselle were friends who went to college together. For years Giselle had been telling me “You have to meet my friend Randy.” But for whatever reason, Randy and I never met…until I was available. Then it was possible for the forces that be to allow Randy to bring Edward to me. It’s as if God were watching and saying… “No, they can’t meet yet…Okay now! Quickly!”

The short version is Giselle threw a party, Edward tagged along with Randy and this is where we were introduced. The sparks didn't fly right away though, because I am a hard nut to crack. Although I am a very nice person, it sometimes takes me a long time to warm up to new people; especially if the ‘new person’ is a man. Although Edward was sitting across from me the night that we met, it took me weeks to finally recognize his existence. The funny thing is that week after week, without either of us having plans to meet up, somehow we ended up seeing each other... every week. The timing of our introduction was ON POINT! If we would have met months or years earlier he would have been in a relationship and if we would have met weeks earlier, I might have mentioned a boyfriend who no longer existed in my life, making myself unavailable to Edward.

I’m a homebody who loves having visitors. One Saturday, Giselle planned to visit me after her class ended. Someone coming to my house is a guarantee that I will not set foot outdoors, unless I have to go to the supermarket to buy food or drinks for my guest. But on this beautiful October day, I strangely woke up with an urgency to leave my house.

Giselle called me and told me that she’d gotten out of class early and that she was about to head to my house. Under normal circumstances I would have felt relieved that I didn’t have to leave my house and would have said, ‘Come on over.’; but on this day, I had such a strong urgency to go to Manhattan so I told Giselle to stay where she was and I would meet her instead.

While I was traveling to the city Giselle ran into Edward. They said their hello’s and goodbye’s and Giselle went to find a place to sit and wait for me. While she was sitting and waiting, Edward walked by, so she invited him to sit and wait with her also. I was not happy when I arrived and saw Edward sitting there. So much that I didn’t sit down and made motions for us to ditch him, but Giselle has more manners than I do so she convinced me to take the stick out of my ass and sit down. Did I mention that I don’t like new people?

The seat that I took that day has been one of the best seats I have ever taken in my life. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but it takes a lot… A LOT for me to be interested in someone. And taking that seat was the beginning of me getting to know someone new who became such a huge part of my life. Thinking back to that day, you never realize how in just a short moment, a mere stranger can be the person who is going to light you up inside. And Edward was and is that person.

As Edward and I got to know each other, we found out that besides Giselle and Randy, there were lots of other people we had in common. Some people, I knew from church or school and Edward knew them from... church or school. He went to school with people I had gone to church with and I went to school with people he went to church with. It just seemed that at some point, someway, somehow we were meant to meet.

As with many relationship beginnings you are on fire for each other. Edward and I couldn't get enough of each other. Phone conversations ended only when batteries died and the time we spent together was electrifying. Our connection was so strong neither of us could believe that we had only known each other for mere months. And years later our connection is even stronger. It’s strange, but I actually feel like I have always known him.

Aside from Giselle and my mom, Edward is my best, best friend. We can talk and talk for hours! And when you've known each other for so many years, what the hell is there left to talk about? I don't know what we talk about but we genuinely enjoy each other's company. Any activity, whether it's going on vacation, watching a movie, sitting on a bus, we enjoy it together because we are together.

You Take the Good, You Take the BadOf course our relationship doesn’t come without it's trials and tribulations. Edward is one of the best human beings I have ever met...besides myself that is. (I kid). He is one of the most generous, kind people in the world. The world doesn’t have enough people like him. For me, this is great because he is a total gentleman who treats me like an absolute lady. You know how some of the good things that happened in the beginning of a relationship sometimes tend to fade? Treating me like a lady is one thing that never ceased in our relationship. I’m not a gold digger by any means or someone who likes to rely on anyone. I am totally okay with everything being fifty-fifty between us; but Edward will not allow me to lift a finger or spend a dime. I shouldn’t complain, but sometimes it gets annoying with him trying to do everything by himself. If I want to do something for him, it has to be a surprise. And because he’s not used to people doing nice things for him he is always extremely appreciative. (Dude, who did you date before you met me?!?!)

The problem I have with Edward being kind and generous is that he is like this with just about everyone he meets. His mother, his father, his sister, his brother, his friend, his friend, his friend, his coworker, the guy who sells him coffee every morning, the guy who delivers his mail… Okay I’m exaggerating a bit, but only a little bit. Call me selfish, but I can't stand it. If he’s giving, giving, giving to everyone around him, then there isn’t much left for us.

Edward does not have a malicious bone in his body and one of the things that proved to me that he was a wonderful person, was the way he treated others around him. There isn't a person who asks him for help that he will turn down which is wonderful, but also where a lot of our problems come from because along with being mine, he also spreads himself thin, by trying to please everyone who asks him for help. I try to see the positive in this, but sometimes it drives me insane.

Edward not having the word ‘No’ in his vocabulary definitely puts a bit of a strain on our relationship. But I can’t change someone who has been like this all of his life. He loves to help people. That’s not such a bad thing. He could be so many other bad things, but his bad thing is that he likes to be good. Go figure.

Removing all selfishness from my mind for a second and seeing what I call a flaw in a positive light, I do hope that when we have our beige babies one day that they will grow to be just like him. The characteristics he has are what make him a great husband and dedicated family man. I see that, I do. But sometimes I just don’t want to share.

All in all, I’ve got one of the good ones. Along with being good to others, Edward has been very good to me. He’s my biggest supporter, my number one cheerleader, my creative muse, my caretaker, my best friend, my family and in some cases, my hero. Meeting Edward was a true blessing and one of the best things to happen to me.

Thanks a million for writing this guest post, Louise! Make sure you check out her blog, Louise Cazley. Oh, and she's on Twitter, too. Oh, and I have to mention this...remember those recipe cards that I ran out of cash to print? Well, Louise had them printed for us! So, so grateful. Thanks a 934857203985720384957203, lady!


MODERN MOM said... November 11, 2011 at 7:23 AM

Awesome post!!! And a great looking couple!!!

Fleur De Moi said... November 11, 2011 at 8:19 AM

Happy Wedding Day and Happy Birthday!

Louise Cazley said... November 11, 2011 at 1:18 PM

You're welcome for the recipie cards... Jesus made me do them for you, so thank him. lol. And thanks for letting me blogsit. I enjoyed writing the story. And happy, happy birthday wedding!!!

Louise Cazley said... November 11, 2011 at 1:22 PM

...And a comment from my friend, Clarissa who couldn't log in:

Wow! I'm not sure if it's just because it's so wonderfully written or because I have the pleasure of knowing you both, but eyes were misty after reading this! If the worst a person can do is be too nice - then let the cloning begin! Seriously, this is a great love story and some great pictures, too! CVRX

Alyna said... November 11, 2011 at 4:00 PM

Congratulations Louise and Edward!

It is always a pleasure to see love and friendship which is illustrated in your pictures. I hope the years continue to bless you and make your smiles wider.

Alyna (Clarissa’s niece)

Tanya said... November 11, 2011 at 4:47 PM

Congratulations Louise & Edward!

Welcome to the wonderful world of Marriage. All the best.

cheryl on parkside ave said... November 15, 2011 at 1:45 PM

Hi Louise,this maybe my 2nd comment because i post earlier but i do not see it. So here we go again.

Your blog was just beautiful. Hope you and Edward's love grow each day and always remember to laugh at each other jokes...Peace and much love...Cheryl (Clarissa's sister).

Eddie O. said... November 17, 2011 at 1:20 AM

Great job Louise! You both are good people with huge hearts and deserve all the happiness God gives you. This is a great story and you did a wonderful job sharing it. Keep on writing! I'm waiting on the next book! ..........Eddie O.

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